It’s back to school time and for most parents there is a sense of relief to establish a routine. Children will be busy with school, homework and after school activities. There will be no more “Mom I’m bored! ” complaints.
However for those of us whose last child leaves for university, this time is bitter sweet.
I have been blessed with 2 wonderful adult children who still enjoy spending time with me (or so they say!).
My youngest, Sabrina, left for University last year and the void was (and still is) huge.
This fall my oldest, Scott, is headed to the US to fulfill his dream of playing hockey while obtaining his degree.
That leaves me alone at home for the 1st time in 21 years. Now what??!!
No more hockey or soccer games to attend, no more volunteering at school, no more family dinners, board games, movie nights, Netflix marathons, coupon days.
My intent was to write this blog about how to fill the void. I wrote a similar one last year when my youngest graduated from high school. I was optimistic and I had a plan!
(My Milestone Year http://innovativeplanit.com/2014-milestone-year/)
But who am I kidding? Nothing fills this void. After 21 years of hands on parenting will getting a job, starting a hobby, getting in shape, joining a club change the fact that your kids are grown and living their own lives? Nope.
The upside to this is if they have left the nest then you’ve done a great job parenting! Let’s face it, having a 35 year old son living in your basement with his girlfriend while playing video games is not ideal either.
My kids are confident, smart, independent and excited to be in University.
I am filled with pride and joy as I watch them succeed (and maybe fail) in life.
I know I will always be a big part of their lives. I miss my little kids with their sticky hands and wet kisses but I am so proud of my grown kids.
Now what? Well for me…I will cry and be sad for awhile.
But I may also learn how to swim, become a Walmart greeter and start collecting lawn gnomes.
To all you empty nesters out there … good luck with that!
Christmas holidays are only 4 months away.
“The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence.” ~ Denis Waitley
“A child enters your home and for the next twenty years makes so much noise you can hardly stand it.
The child departs, leaving the house so silent you think you are going mad.” ~ John Andrew Holmes