The Fork in the Road

The Fork in the Road

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Albert Einstein.

The new year is a wonderful time to reevaluate and reassess our life. Are you pleased with your relationship? your career?  your finances?

If you are not, then it’s time to make a change.

The biggest stressors in life are a starting a new job, marriage, death, divorce and a move.

How do you deal with life altering decisions?

What is the best way to handle such major decisions?

1. Base your decision on your core values.

    If your decision is at odds with who you are as a person, it will not bring you peace.

2. Follow your instincts.

    If your gut tells you to not pick one of the choices…don’t.

3. Do your research.

    If you are debating moving to a new city, go visit the city for a few days and

    get a feel for the place.

4. Make a list.

    The old fashioned way of listing pros and cons is tried and true.

5. Ask the advice of those who know you best.

    Don’t ask everyone you know, just the people you trust and who know you well.

    Their opinion may be unbiased.

6. Ask yourself how much this decision will matter in 5 years.

    Marriage, divorce, having children are life altering. Other decisions like accepting

    a new job or moving to another city are daunting but reversible. Will the outcome

    be as important in 5 years? If not, don’t stress over it as much.

7. Don’t decide under duress.

    Make sure your decision is based on a peaceful state of mind. If you need to get

    away from the situation to get perspective then do so. (take a break from the

    relationship, take a leave of absence from work).

8. Imagine your life with each choice.

    Take some quiet time and imagine your life with your new partner, new job or in your

     new city. Does the prospect fill you with joy or anxiety?

9. Listen to your inner voice.

    You shouldn’t have to convince yourself to do this. It should feel like a positive step. 

10.Making no decision is a decision in itself.

      If you allow the opportunity to pass, by not making a decision, then that is a decision

      in itself.

The thought of change is frightening and exhilarating all at once.

It is in your power to change the course of your life. It won’t be easy, change never is.

However, isn’t it wonderful to know that the possibilities are endless?

May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears.

Nelson Mandela


  1. I read #6 in a book a number of years ago, and found it to be very helpful. Thanks for the reminder!

    • Sometimes it’s all about putting it in perspective.

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